Saturday, February 13, 2010

i'm the baby???

this is where life takes the strangest of turns. 
the other day i had left a post on my cousin's facebook page, telling her to save the date. 
she responded by asking me what was going on that day. i told her it was my nephew's (her cousin) 2nd birthday. 
now once you start discussing the younger kids in our family, the conversation then tends to move to the time machine. 
we started reminiscing about our birthdays when we were kids and all the fun things our grandparents would do for us. we had some great birthdays. 
she mentioned that her daughter was coming in at the end of the week and that reminded me that her daughter's birthday was coming up. now i will admit, when it comes to my younger cousins, remembering what day they were born on sometimes escapes my memory. ok, it escapes it all the time. in a round about way i asked when her daughter's birthday was by saying, "she is going to be 15, right?". yeah it was a bit sneaky, but sneaky does run in the family. 
she said yes that "j" would be 15 on the 21st of this month and that her nephew was turning 19 in the 24th. this was good to know since i would have missed "m's" birthday too. 
i started thinking the same thing she was, when did these kids get to be this old?
how is this possible? had i blinked and missed something? then i started thinking about my cousins on my mom's side. i realized that 1 was married now, 2 were in college and the 3rd was graduated, looking for a house and would probably be getting engaged soon. 
OMG I FEEL OLD!!!!
i said this to my cousin and she said, "you feel old? please!! do you want to know what is scary here? i will be celebrating my 50th birthday in 3 months! you and your sister are babies!!" ok i can see where she is going with this. i am 40 and hardly a baby, but to her, my sister and i will always be her babies. just like the younger ones are babies to my sister and i. 
i see the younger ones as kids clammering for our attention. i never stopped to think that my older cousins would feel the same way i do. on my dad's side i have 2 older  cousins. 
jan is 54 and andi will be 50. on my mom's side i have 3 older cousins. debbie is already 50, karin will be 48 and marc is 44. i see them as i always have. 
so when andi said my sister and i are babies, and i thought this whole thing through, i can now understand how she feels.  you never stop to think how the other one feels until you get there yourself. 
i guess to her, we are the babies.

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