men and birthdays

what is it with men and birthdays? i understand everyone hates to get older. hell, i freaked out at 30! granted every year after that kind of sucked but at some point even i got over it. when i turned 40 i was shouting it from the rooftops. i loved it and will forever celebrate the 40th over and over again until i turn 50. then it will be a major party in my book!!! let's face it, it is a key birthday that deserves the highest of honors and prezzies!!! right? 
ok where was i going with this? oh! my husband and his 36th birthday. 
yesterday was his birthday and he did not take it too well. every year we go through the same thing. he wants a fuss, he doesn't, he wants cards, he doesn't, he wants everyone to remember, he doesn't. this all started when he turned 30. now granted i understand part of it but he takes this one step further. he goes for the full depression. i am still not sure after all these years why but i try not to let his mood damped the day. it is the one day of the year that i do grant his "all about me" mode so i do what i can to help make it better for him. in his mind he is not young anymore, the body is changing, he isn't where he thought he would be in life at this age (like who really is?), he can't do the same things he could 10 years ago (seriously who would want to?) and the fact he is now one step closer to 40. 
the day before did not help his mood either. ace is a cancer in the zodiac world to my scorpio so you can see where this gets tricky. anyway the day before he had a little altercation at work and he let it bother him to the point that it became better than it needed to be. true cancer if you ask me. i'll give you the cliff note version: 2 techs, 1 husband and a stupid joke that backfired. get the picture? thought so. remember when i say techs i am talking automotive so i am sure you understand. 
so he let it get bigger and i got pissed because, why let it ruin your weekend. i mean i know it wasn't going to ruin theirs and i sure as hell wasn't going to let it ruin mine. so i tried to explain this to him and in the end i told him to fuck off. wrong words to say to someone when they are already pissed but oh well. we fought as normal and finally i was able to tell him that what he is doing is giving them the satifaction of being upset and that this was not worth it. karma comes home and to just let it be. he actually listened to me and dropped the subject. 
funny thing, the next the he got his bday wish, karma came home and one tech got it in the end.