i am sure about now you are dying to know how ace and i ever got together. if you're not, humor me and pretend you do. thanks.
as i have said before life is not a fairy tale. you do not meet someone, fall madly in love and live happily ever after. i have dated a lot of guys and had a lot of blind dates. none of which ever worked out in my favor. i had gotten to the point that is was better to be alone or just date once in a while then get your heart broken time after time. i would watch my girlfriends go out and practically start planning a wedding before the check was paid. and of course by the time the check was paid it was practically over for them. so why would i want to keep subjecting myself to that? i didn't. i would do a dinner or lunch and leave it at that. sometimes i would see the guy for a few weeks and end it before i got hurt.
you the know the old saying when you least expect it, expect it.
february 14Th 2003 i met ace. we were both working in the mall, he the restaurant and me one of the stores. i went into the restaurant to have a break and saw him standing there. no it was not love at first sight. more like mutual sarcasm. i was in a bad mood to begin with because it had been a hellish day watching people buy valentine gifts, and my boss was being a raving bitch. i went in and sat there waiting for a few minutes for him to ask if i wanted anything. finally i looked at him and said "hey spiky, can i get a glass of water or do i need to go behind the bar and get it myself?"
you could see the surprise in his eyes that someone said that to him and i guess it pissed him off because the response i got back was "get off your ass and get it yourself". had i wanted something more than water his tip would have gone down the drain with that remark.
so i proceeded to get off my ass and get a drink. seeing this shocked him, i guess he really didn't think i would do it. so with that he went and got me a glass of water.
still in a bad mood and made worse by ace, i proceeded to at least drum up some business so my raving bitch boss would get off my case for the rest of the night. i started to talk to him and ask questions. for those who know me, i do make friends well and being in customer service for a long time, i know when and how to strike up a conversation.
i asked if he had a girlfriend. talk about an ice breaker! ace looked shocked and was speechless for a moment. i don't think he was expecting that question. he looked at me and asked "what do you consider a girlfriend?"
now i am speechless. what in the hell did he think i meant? so i said "are you dating anyone?'
he looked at me and said kind of. ok now i am thinking what is kind of. you are or your not.
here is how this went:
me: " it's valentine's day. do you have a girlfriend that you need a gift for?"
him: " well, i have only been back here for a month and met this girl, we're not serious or anything and i have only gone out with her a couple times."
me: "then you don't have a girlfriend. you have dates."
him: "why do you want to know?"
me: "well if you were dating someone special then i would recommend a gift for her. but if it's not serious then i would just say get a nice card and maybe candy."
him: "why do you even care?"
me: " i need this business and i don't see you getting a diamond or something for someone you hardly know."
him: "well i am kind of in a transition period. i was living with this girl in peoria but we broke up and i just moved back home. so this isn't anything big, just someone to hang out with."
me: " that's nice. well since you're not buying, i need to get back. so see ya around."
and with that i walked out. for the next month i would go in and out of the bar during my breaks and would see ace. we would chat and flirt a bit but i never thought anything past that. well one day in march i was being hounded that our store need more credit apps. since i had pretty much tapped everyone in the mall, i figured, i need a smoke and ace was there, so perfect fresh meat.
i walk in and told him to fill this out. he was in the middle of the lunch rush and said he didn't have time. i told him to give me his driver's license and i would fill it out. when i was done i gave him his license and said sign this. he had no idea what i was doing so he actually read the app. he looked at me and said " i have no credit. this won't get approved."
i told him i could care less, that all i need was the stupid thing filled out and by the way i needed a phone number. he supplied the information and while i was walking out he yelled " sneaky way to get my phone number!" i yelled back "don't worry, i promise never to use it."
the weekend before st. patty's day, i stopped in the bar after work with a friend and had drinks and dinner. ace was working the dining room but stopped by the bar to say hi. we chatted a bit and then he asked me if i wanted to go out that night. i did not take this seriously. i mean who would? so we paid the check and left.
monday, st. patty's day, he was working the bar and i walked in and he asked what happen saturday night. why did i leave? i explained i did not think he was serious so i left. turns out he was and asked if i wanted to go out for st. patty's day. i said maybe, let's see what happens after we get off work. i figured that would give me time to think of an excuse to get out of it. well 9pm rolls around and he meets me outside to make plans. i said i would go for a drink but that's it. i had to work the next day. he said ok but then i would have to drop him off at home. i asked where home is. he tells me clarendon hills. thinking that is a far distance i said how about some other time. he was ok with that and asked about tomorrow night instead. i said that would be better since i was off on wednesday.
now it's the next night and we end up at his favorite bar and it karaoke night. we sit, order and start to get to know each other. i find out he is only 27 ( to my 34, little cradle robbing here), was once engaged but a few weeks before the wedding (his parents hated the girl and did not support this one) he finds her with his best man, lived with a weirdo he met on line in peoria, just moved back home with his parents, traveled with some band called phish ( like a deadhead or something), been in the navy, has a college degree in art history (not much you can do with that one but hey, better than nothing), and can sing!!! who knew???
what surprised me was how much he had done is such a short span of time. and yes, i did check all this out and it was all true. go figure. anyway, we sat, talked, i listen to him sing, and finally i said i had to go. apparently he had a different plan. he wanted to come home with me and finish "talking". now i am not let's do it on the first date girl. this was not my intention here. but for some reason he was very insistent and i agreed. i also had to get up in the morning to drive him back since he was opening the next morning.
we get back to my place and continued talking. yes really talking. finally i said if i didn't get some sleep soon, he would have to find another way home. so i stuck him on the couch and said, "if you move any part of your body off this couch for any reason and i mean any reason, or come near my room, i will kill you and bury you in the back yard. and i seriously doubt that anyone would miss you, let alone look for you."
the fear was now installed. it did work, he never moved an inch.
from the on he was always there. no matter what i did, he stuck. right now as of this writing i would like to unstick that glue and dump his worthless ass. i would delete that statement but i don't want to. i am happy i started this, cause at least i can vent and maybe someone can help me out there.
anyway, this is how we ended up together. one date and together since. and yeah there are days, like this one that i wish i never met him let alone married him.
maybe i will tell you about it one day. but this proves the real world does suck.
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